What carries more weight Love or Money? Sure it sounds like a stupid question but in most cases the answer given can and will vary depending on who you ask. In a world where how much money you make, what kind of car you drive, or the kind of clothes you wear --most times these things out weights and over shadows what we can offer to that person we are attracted to. This is not to say everyone is shallow but in reality most times “We want what we want the way and when we want it”, we when don’t get what we want we tend to not try as hard to make that person we are interested in a part of our life. In the movie “Car Wash” Daddy Rich (Richard Pryor) said “It’s better to have money and not to need it then to need it and not to have it.” But who we “fall in love” with shouldn’t depend on how much money we have but for some it is the leading factor. It should be more on how we relate and get along with one another, how we enjoy one another’s company, if our life goals and wants are similar just to name a few.
When we are attracted to someone and while we are getting to know them, for most men, without knowing we will spend our last dime on the woman we trying to get with. Trying to show her we are worthy of her love, we will become very creative in the many ways we try and get their attention and see nothing wrong with doing whatever we have to just to have her apart of our life but once we get them we (not everyone) spend far less money to “maintain” that excitement that was our focus in the beginning and even less effort to keep her happy and in love with us.
In the early stages of most relationships you would never be caught dead putting a price on the love you two share or its worth but once the relationship is over - a done deal as they say - you are more willing and able to come up with an ending relationship figure you feel will ease the pain of the break up. For whatever reason when the love fades all that matters is that you walk away with something. The reason why people fall out of love is a question that only those involved can attempt to answer. I will say this though “money issues” has been proven throughout history to be the biggest reason for the many divorces amount couples and following a close second is cheating. This leads me to ask, “Does this mean when the relationship ends that everyone has a price they feel their time was worth?” Humm…
All we really want in our relationship “first” is honesty, open communication and “companionship”. With these elements in place the level of intimacy we share only makes the love making feel so much better. For most their reasoning for not allowing this to happen early on in the relationship is simple, they feel the closer they allow their new friend to become, the greater potential of pain they could feel “if” the feelings they have aren’t mutual or returned. The funny thing is the more we try to guard ourselves from getting hurt by the next person the more likely it will happen. It is a double edge sword because we place ourselves in a mini prison to a point where “we” prevent ourselves from being loved by someone who is trying to do just that …love us for us. Although it takes time for a person to fall in love most times after a few dates you know if this person is someone you want to be with and to know better.
Some people see relationships and treat theirs like a job which they shouldn’t. Let me explain --a job is a cut and dry situation--once you work and put in the time required you get a check for your efforts but in a relationship you can put in your time and even work over time and still ending up with nothing. There are no guarantees that the love you give will be return. All we can do is hope the love we give is returned willingly. I have heard women say their love would be easier to give to their man if they felt “financially secure” with him first. This is a fair statement because who wants to be in love and broke? But being secure “financially” with him doesn’t mean he will love you the way you want to be loved in the relationship. Regardless if you’re married or just dating, and many will not admit this, they would rather have more love and some money then no love and more money ….in their relationship.
I would hate to think or feel that all we do while in a relationship is “rent” our mates for companionship, sex, and love until the money runs out. It seems kind of messed up when you think about it because in a twisted way it is what we do (not intentionally). Look at it from a logically point of view and you just might agree (slightly) once we get through the meeting, friends courting, and becoming a “couple” the clock begins and you are now renting hoping to one day own . Like in buying a house we invest money but in this case we invest our hearts, time, love, trust and pray we’ve “made” a good investment. And just like decorating your home we add others to enhance and solidified the value of “our” investment.
Your additions make your foundation “seem” a little more solid. But unlike changing the color of your bedroom walls your newly added additions are yours for life. Don’t get me wrong you would give your last breathe to ensure our children are happy but when the love with your mate begins to fade for whatever reason you start dividing the property. This is a hell of a lot easier to do then dividing your love for your children. Divorce or separation is never easy and it is even harder on the children because to them no amount of money could come close or replace the love of their “Mommy and Daddy”.
So at the end of the day when you ask the question “What does love got to do with it?” Know and understand it has a lot to do with who we are, how we love with those we fall in love with and where our lives could go. Although money helps enhance the comforts we enjoy in life, the love we share with our mates, our family and friends and the time we spend obtaining and doing “things” we enjoy together makes the not so good times bearable and the good times priceless and worthwhile.
